When someone is hurt emotionally or physically it’s a natural emotion to feel anger or resentment for the perpetrator. You want that person to go through some pain or at the very least you want this person to acknowledge that they hurt you. But what many don’t understand is keeping a grudge or anger for someone can keep you in bondage for a long time and hurt you even more. Because when you think about these negative feelings you re-live the pain over and over and over and soon these negative feelings can take over your personality in a negative way.
Because what is happening in your body is that the chemical epinephrine is produced by the adrenal gland when a person experience anger, frustration or stress. This chemical is naturally produced in your body but too much of it in your body for long periods can lead to sweating, stress, headaches depression and heart disease. So forgive and let go as soon as you can. Let go of the feeling that is causing you pain. It won’t make you a wimp or soft. It is the healthy way to go and the smart thing to do. Forgive not for them but for your mental and physical health.
Get rid of these negative feelings as soon as you can. This may be an ego or pride buster for some, especially if the perpetrator is unforgiving. But still choose to forgive this person not to reconnect or be buddy buddy but only to release the negative feelings from within your heart. You will find that after forgiveness your healing will take place a lot sooner.
“Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the lord forgave you.”- Colossians 3:13
“If we really want to love we must learn to forgive”- Mother Teresa
“He who devoid of the power to forgive devoid of the power to love”- Martin Luther King Jr.
“Forgiveness is letting go of the hope that the past can be changed.”- Oprah Winfrey
“The best way to get the last word is to apologize”- God’s little devotional book for women.
“WE are all full of weakness and errors: let us mutually pardon each other our follies”-Voltaire
“He who cannot forgive breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass”-George Herbert
“Forgiveness is giving up my right to hurt you because you hurt me.”-Unknown
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you”.-Lewis B Smedes
“Forgiveness is choosing to love .It is the first skill of self giving love”-Gandhi
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